May 28, 2018

5 Things I Learned In Our First Month of Marriage

Now that I've been Mrs. O'Shea for a whopping 30 days, I'm practically an expert on this whole marriage thing, right? I wish I could say that without laughing, because I know nothing. I'm still going to reflect on the first month of our marriage and share what I've learned so far though.

1. Weddings are CONSUMING in every way
I'm FREE guys! Call me! Text me! Planning a wedding felt too much like a second job, and I'm happy to never think about it again. Don't get me wrong, I thoroughly enjoyed my wedding and would absolutely love to relive that day, but I don't want to go through the motion of planning another one. It required too much time and energy, and I'm relishing in my restored free time.

2. We feel the same
Friends and family keep asking us how it feels to be a married. Well, to be honest, it doesn't feel any different. We were committed to each other for many years, so getting married was more of a formality for us. In my opinion, I felt like our marriage was a right of passage rather than a union. It's like now we can do ALL the things without people raising any sort of concerns, and that's a nice feeling.

3. Go Team!
Even though we were already working as a unit, being married does force you to think a little differently. It's like there's this subtle shift in the way we approach our conversations and decisions. I don't know why consulting and confiding in each other feels more important than ever, but it just does. I suppose that's what happens when "me" suddenly becomes "we".

4. Adjusting to my new name and title
I plan on taking Evan's last name. I haven't figured out all of the logistics yet, because I'm also changing my first name and adding a middle name. The name change process will be quite complicated for me, so I'm not looking forward to the trials of getting my name the way I want it.

Anyways, it has been strange introducing myself as Mrs. Jenn O'Shea. New title AND new last name. Craziness. I continue to make the mistake of using my maiden name in emails or in conversations and have to quickly correct myself. I do enjoy my title as wife though and calling Evan, my husband. There's a sense of pride that comes along with being someone's wifey for lifey.

5. Kids?
Not many people have asked us about kids yet, but oddly enough, Evan has brought it up a few times. I had no idea he was ready to have a baby, so this came as a shock to me. A part of me wanted to enjoy a period of wedded bliss without kids. Heck, I wanted to get a puppy first. Maddie, our dog, just turned 11 years old, and I know I'll need an emotional buffer for when she passes. Lastly, I selfishly wanted more time to do some soul searching and explore alternative career options. I'm aware that this isn't about me anymore and agree with Evan's point that we're only getting older, so this may be the best time to consider growing our family. All and all, I guess the thought of having kids is terrifying in a thrilling kind of way, but maybe we'll start trying soon.




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